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Comment: You don’t have to be sorry for being a bad texter



Still, this article is no defense for really bad texting – ghosts, I’m referring to you.

It’s one thing to respond slowly, but it’s quite another to consistently ignore text messages, especially when there’s no intention of maintaining contact with the other party. It’s awful to see friends or romantic interests active on social media, but to see every attempt at conversation go cold. These people just aren’t interested, and they don’t even have the courtesy to tell you.

For those who don’t have a penchant for smartphones, there’s always room to be a best friend. Being more intentional about texting is no excuse for miscommunication, especially for someone who has been waiting a long time for you to decide on a time and place to meet – when the date is tomorrow .

So if you see a text that you can respond to in seconds – one asking for confirmation, for example – you can access it immediately, because you might forget about it later.

Texting is a two-way street, and some consideration for the other party’s personality and communication style can go a long way in maintaining this relationship. Try to mirror your friends’ texting habits: respond quickly to those who do, and for those who don’t, you can afford to take your time.

There are always opportunities to make new connections or strengthen old ones, even as the pandemic drags on. And texting is an inexpensive and highly rewarding way to take advantage of these opportunities.

You would never know how much a sustained and comfortable conversation with a friend could brighten your day. And of course, it’s so much easier to keep in touch with longtime friends and family members when you send more than one reply per week.

So bad texters, you don’t have to be sorry. You’re no less of a friend, but maybe you could be a little more open in the process.

Natalie Tan is a final year undergraduate sociology student at NUS and a freelance writer.